Big Secrets In Marriage – Part One

A friend shared this with me and I thought it’s good to share it with you too. I agree with the sentiments though I have altered some to correct grammar and also fit in with scripture.

Secret no 1

The person you married or you intend to marry has a weakness because every human being has a weakness. Even if you call her angel, she is still human. Only God is perfect. So if you focus only on your spouse’s weaknesses you can’t get the best out of their strength. You are the best person to help your spouse improve in their areas of weakness.

Philippians 2:3 (NET)

Instead of being motivated by selfish ambition or vanity, each of you should, in humility, be moved to treat one another as more important than yourself.

Secret no 2

Everyone has a dark history because no one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married it is good to understand the past of your spouse. However, what really matters most is the present life of your partner, their beliefs, values and aspirations. And especially if they are in Christ, you know that old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

2 Corinthians 5:17 (KJV)

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

Secret no 3

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love is proven in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse during difficult times. Remember the vow “For better for worse” and “in sickness and in health”. Be there for your spouse.

Malachi 2:16 (TLB)

For the Lord, the God of Israel, says he hates divorce and cruel men. Therefore, control your passions—let there be no divorcing of your wives.

Secret no 4

Every marriage has different levels of success in certain areas. Don’t compare your marriage with anyone else. We can never be equal. Some will be far ahead, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true. The most important thing is to fulfil the destiny God has for you as a couple and a family.

1 Corinthians 7:7 (KJV)

For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.